Canadian Mom Writer

Thoughts and Opinions on the writing life, working from home, and mothering.

Location: St Marys, Ontario, Canada

I am a work at home mom of 3 living in the country just outside of St Marys, Ontario. I am a freelance writer and copywriter just finally getting going on my business after baby #3. I was born and raised in Dublin, Ireland and have called Canada home for 16 years now.

Tuesday, January 31, 2006

Farewell to Fertility

In 2 days I am going in for a 'gyny' procedure. We have 3 children now, 2 girls and a boy, and we feel that our family is complete. I had hoped that the Mr would step up to the plate, but constant nagging from me since our son was born 16 months ago has yielded nothing, only a 'I'm not ready'.... Something about the words 'scalpel' and 'boys' in the same sentence that makes him weak at the knees. I've resigned myself to the fact that it would have to be me that did something definite, or I'd be hitting menopause by the time he'd be ready. So, for future reference, I'd like to point out the fact that not only have I brought 3 children into the world, but I've also gone through 27 months of pregnancy - that's 2 years and 3 months of having a human growing inside you, a combined total of about 40 hours of labour, (a normal work week for most people) 2 epidurals and 1 caesarian with all the stitches and FUN that goes along with that, and 1 totally natural, totally drug free birth that was the most amazing experience of my life and one that solidified the belief that if my body can expel an 8lb 7oz human out of it in 17 minutes, then it can do ANYTHING.

And then somewhere during the first year of my son's life, after battling Post Partum Depression, major sleep deprivation and the complete loss of focus that beleaguers all mothers, I decided that this was it, I wasn't going through this again. We had our perfect family, our beautiful daughters and the much sought-after BOY; it was time to focus on enjoying them and reconnecting with ourselves, and myself. I've spent the last 8 years having babies and loving every minute of it, well, almost every minute! Now it's time for me to focus on my career, on my writing, on watching my children grow up. So am I nervous about this impending surgery? Not a bit, I'm actually looking forward to it. Now if only there was a way to get rid of Aunt Flo...

Monday, January 16, 2006

What's in a name?

I've never had so much difficulty in thinking up names for things.... Even naming my children wasn't this hard. I am trying to think up possible names for a parenting column I may be writing on a regular basis. All of the names that I've come up with so far seem to have been taken. I've brainstormed every derivative of the word 'Mother' I can think of, and am now thinking of some catchy phrase instead. Help! I need inspiration! Is this why it's taken me so long to get these sample articles off to the editor, I just can't for the life of me think of a catchy, yet poignant original name. Good grief, this hurts....

Wednesday, January 11, 2006

Disney Princesses, Feminism, and what are we teaching our daughters?

My younger daughter turned 6 this past Sunday. She has been a Cinderella nut for ages, so this Christmas she received lots of Princess stuff. For her birthday, she wanted a Princess party, so a dozen or so little princesses descended on my house on Saturday. Halfway through the party, she said her dress made her itchy and she took it off. I was a bit upset when taking the group photo and the birthday girl was wearing pants and a t-shirt, but whatever. I even made her a Castle cake, which didn't turn out quite the way I expected, the cake was too flaky and wouldn't hold the icing, not to mention the fact that I ran out of frosting....

The recently sieged Castle Cake....
But did she notice? Not a bit. She was more interested in putting sprinkles and 2 little princess figurines on it than noticing that the castle looked like it had been pillaged and plundered.

So fast forward to the next day, her actual birthday. We gave her a Cinderella carriage complete with a resplendent Prince Charming. This is the first male doll she has owned, and leave it to the girls to pull his pants down to see his bum and see if he had a penis. Finally, payback for Daddy looking at Barbies, Bratz, and Disney Princesses in such a manner. I can hardly reprimand them for being curious, can I? Later that night I came across Cinderella and her trusty steed on the couch. This is what it looked like;

Cinderelly a go-go

Apparently whenever she put Cinderella in the carriage with Prince Charming, her dress would keep the door open. So leave it to my resourceful, smart child to remover her cumbersome dress and leave her in the carriage in her underwear! Like my daughter, Cinderella's dress became too much of a bother. Pretty for a while, but not very comfortable. Looks like at this point that she finally ditched the man too, happy to ride naked, carefree and upside down. Isn't that what every little girl truly dreams of anyway?!

Tuesday, January 03, 2006

First Post of the New Year!

After a somewhat crazy holiday, we are starting to get back into the regular routine; hubby goes back to work tomorrow, girls go back to school next Monday, brothers have gone back to their lives in Toronto and New York.

Now it is time for me to determine what I want out of 2006. Here are my goals for the upcoming year.

1. Get my Freelance Writing business off the ground! I will get clients, and I will be able to make this work.

2. Write More. Work on my book as much as possible.

3. Network/market my business as much as possible.

4. Get in shape and lose weight. I've joined the Y, and am slowly getting into the routine of going to the gym regularly. I am also writing their weekly article in our local paper so it is a win-win situation. I played squash tonight for the first time with the racquet I got for Christmas. I loved it, but I know I'll be hurting tomorrow.

5. Get Organized. Hah! Had to throw that one in here. Wouldn't be New Year's without it.